Normal human behavioural traits are ever evolving or rather as I have discussed previously what is seen as normal today for how to do something is rarely seen as normal for how to do that same thing tomorrow. This means we are constantly changing and the way we change is by people doing things differently, which begs the question, why do so many of those people who do things differently so often end up being ostracised by society for doing so.
The simple answer is it’s complicated. The way that what is normal changes is by people discovering new ways for doing things; however, there is a caveat, because every single person alive is forever looking for better ways to do things it is highly improbable that we will all find a way that is in fact actually better for how to do things meaning it will most likely never be normal for everyone to do things differently. In fact the opposite is most likely to happen, the majority of us will find that one way for doing things is better than all the other ways. And so the majority will copy that way.
This is how new normal’s are born, the majority of us find that a certain way of doing something is better than all the other ways and so we will copy that way. And when we discover this better way of doing things we want everyone in our “tribe” to use this method because we think it is best. And because we think it is best, by default we also believe that if everybody utilises this method then our tribe’s chances of survival will be the best that they can be.
And this is a key factor for why so many people who are seen as different end up being ostracised by others. We all want to survive and it is in our nature to want to do everything we can to give ourselves and our tribes the best chances of survival. Think of it like this if our tribe is following best practice for survival then our tribe is benefiting our own survival, and if we are practising best practice for survival we are benefiting our tribe’s survival.
But if one person in our tribe is not seen to be following best practice for survival then that person is seen to be threatening the tribe’s and thus by default our own survival by not doing everything we believe that they can to give the tribe the best chance of surviving.
And this is what it comes down to, if we believe that a certain method is superior to another by default we want all of our tribe to also utilise this method, because as we believe it is best we also by default believe that should all follow it that it will boost not only our tribe’s survival chances but our own because the stronger our tribe is the stronger our survival chances are.
However, should one person not be following this method then that person is more often than not seen as a threat to the tribe, not just because by not following what is seen as best practice they are seen to be hindering the strength of the tribe, but because by not following best practice there is a danger that other people may start to copy this what is seen as inferior method, further hindering the strength of the tribe.
This is why we have a tendency to reject those who act differently, because subconsciously we all want to survive and the best way to survive is by following the best practices in regards to survival. Yet if people in our tribe are seen to be not following this practice then they are seen to be hindering those survival chances, not only by doing things differently but by the fact that in doing something differently there is the risk that others will copy.
So the reality is we ostracise those who do things differently because subconsciously we see them as a threat to our survival. But this begs the question of why some people who are seen as different are put up on a pedestal while others are treated as pariahs.
To answer this, imagine if one thousand people believe that the best way for doing something is their way and yet one person believes they are all wrong and the best way for doing something is another way.
Under this scenario you have one thousand people who desire to prove that their way is best and only one person trying to prove that their way is best. And it is in our nature to try to prove that our way is best and if there’s one person trying to tell one thousand other people they are wrong that one person is going to be challenged by one thousand people.
And that one person may go on to prove to each of those one thousand people that his or her way is best, and if it is best society will take up this new way because it is in our nature to do so. But only once it has been proven beyond doubt to be better meaning that that one person will have to go to war.
The reason being survival, imagine if people adopted a new way of doing things that was in fact a threat to the existence of the human race, but this fact was unknown in the beginning and yet because it seemed better at first everybody had taken it up. If humans did things this way then human race would cease to exist within a few generations, which is why the people that are still alive do not do things this way. Any new way of doing things will be questioned beyond belief and rejected wholly and entirely until it has been proven beyond doubt to be better.
That means if our one person has found a better way for doing things as long as they are willing to fight they will win the war, which is why some people despite being ostracised at first end up being put up on a pedestal, because they have found a better way to survive and people will reward any person who improves their survival chances.
But on the flipside this is why some people end up being seen as pariahs for life, because society rather than proving that the new way is better find that it is in fact inferior, and that is the risk of trying to create change, or rather the risk of doing things differently. The change you may want to bring about may in fact not be of benefit to the people you’re selling it to.
So the reason society attacks those who do things differently is because it is in our nature to want everybody in our tribe to follow best practice in regards to survival, because people who don’t follow it hinder the strength of our tribe firstly by not following best practice and secondly by risking spreading what is not best practice to others, meaning any person who does things differently has to fight to prove that their way of doing things has merit.
This means by default any person who does things differently will be challenged by the tribe. And if a person does things differently with the intentions of bringing about change by proving that their way is better, then the fact that society challenges this person and demands proof is a good thing as it means we only ever adopt practices which are proven beyond doubt to be of benefit to our survival.
However, this is where things go wrong. If a person just does things differently whether they are trying to bring about change or not they will still be challenged by the tribe. That means that the tribe will attack any person for doing things different, even ones not trying to bring about change. And in fact the ones not trying to bring about change most often get attacked far more than the ones that are, namely because the ones that are fighting to bring about change fight back.
That is to say the tribe bullies those who do things differently in an effort to force them to stop doing things differently. The reason for this is because doing things differently historically could put the lives of a tribe at risk, therefore those who do things differently unless they are willing to and able to prove that their way is best were cast out by the tribe for the crime of not complying to best practices in regards to survival.
So even if it is lamentable it is at least understandable why we have evolved to be this way, in the past our lives depended on it. However, in the modern world this danger is not quite as apparent as it was in the past but the modern world is new, hence, we are still driven by these primitive subconscious behavioural traits, and it is these primitive subconscious behavioural traits which more often than not see all those people who do things differently being ostracised and bullied regardless of whether they pose a threat or not.
Or rather society bullies those who are different in an effort to force them to either to comply or fight back and prove their way is better. In the past when we were primitive beings this was indisputably cruel but also logical simply because a person doing things differently could genuinely in a bygone era have threaten the tribe’s future. In the present it is absolutely not logical, it is just because society is new we have not as of yet proven this fact beyond doubt. If we had people would not still be being bullied and cast out by society for being different.
This is why to stop those who do things differently from being ostracised by society it is absolutely imperative that people band together and fight to prove beyond doubt that people who are different and who do things differently do not by default pose a threat to any of us, and so should not by default be persecuted simply for doing things differently.
The harder we fight to prove this fact, that those who do things differently by default pose no harm and so it is wrong to ostracise them, the more proof there will be that they are no threat to anyone. And the sooner we prove that fact to everyone the sooner those who are different will stop being ostracised and bullied by society.
That’s all from me for today, stay safe!